article: When your next move calls for action.
what to do? Don't get caught in the self-analysis trap: months,
days and even years of "thinking." I've met dozens
of people who think
"getting free" begins with an armchair, a self-help
book and a beer.
Have you ever spent a
whole day driving?
Lying on the couch with a book and a heavy-duty remote control?
At the end of the day you're exhausted.
fuels thought. You
can sit on a couch all day with the self-help book,
but how will you complete the exercises?
The world looks different as you sit in your living room.
When you get off the couch and face the outside world, your answers
is a test of your readiness to change.
Are you thinking of hiring a career consultant?
Before you pick up the phone, take some small action on your
Get a list of articles from the library or web. Make some phone
Are you moving? That's a good sign.
change? Do something different.
In a tape version of her recent book,
Natalie Goldberg advises writers to overcome blocks by changing
small elements of their lives.
Take a different route when you walk home, she suggests. If you
normally drive with your left hand on the steering wheel, try
Do something alone that you normally do with others: shopping,
traveling, eating in a restaurant.
Do something with others that you normally do alone. If you have
a routine for evenings or weekends, find new activities.
In his book, H Allen Wheelis
pointed out that changing yourself is pretty simple.
If you want to stop being a thief, don't steal.
If you want to be a writer, write.
Sounds simple -- but it works.
Sometimes, if you are lucky, external events force you to change
in a positive direction. Rent the video The Closet (Le
Placard). The hero begins as a stereotypically dull accountant.
As people begin to believe he is gay, they treat him differently
-- and he grows into a new, more powerful person.
If you are really, really unhappy, but you can't get yourself
to take even one action step to change your situation, consider
some form of psychotherapy.
Sometimes you are at a point in your life when it's time to do
nothing, but inability to act can signal serious problems, such
as clinical depression.
Cathy Goodwin, Ph.D.
Author, Career Consultant, Speaker
*Fast Track to Career Freedom*