the fine print of your dream
the factory we make lipstick; in the drugstore we sell hope."
That's what Charles Revson, Revlon's founder, supposedly said.
guides work the same way.
They promise a new life, easily and effortlessly, starting tomorrow.
Marsha Sinetar's best-seller, Do What You Love -- The Money
Will Follow." Everybody remembers the title, but Ms.
Sinetar's text spells out the reality. Sure, the money will come
-- but not soon and not a lot.
consider Martha Beck's Finding Your Own North Star, filled
with inspiring stories of successful career-changers. Each story
also includes a line or two like, "It was hard at first.
Money was tight. But now"
dreams call for sacrifice, moving to your dream can also reduce
Tama Kieves, author of This Time I Dance, says she bought
objects to fill the empty space in her previous life as a frustrated
lawyer. As a fulfilled writer and artist, she no longer craved
shopping sprees at the mall.
live in shorts and a tee most of the year and my clothing budget
is close to zero. I suspect there's a dry cleaner somewhere in
Silver City, but I couldn't tell you where. "Never having
to dress up" was always a key part of my own dream.
you pay the price?
Only you can decide.
Some of my clients could move from a palace to a hut with no
regrets. Others feel deprived when they have to sell the yacht
or give up one of their two full-time servants.
family pays a price, too.
Relocation typically includes family members who move and those
who are moved, such as the "trailing spouse." A career
change also creates a "trailing family."
of my former colleagues was reluctant to change careers because,
"My partner likes being married to a college professor."
Yet other freedom-seekers hear their families say, "We'd
rather have a happy breadwinner than a rich one."
to your dreams
guaranteed to include some bumps and detours along the way. You
may welcome the detours and get a laugh out of the bumps. You
may actually enjoy changing a flat tire now and then.
few people do move to their dreams in a chauffeured limo with
champagne in the minibar and soft music coming from the speakers,
as they zip along a recently-paved express lane.
rattling along in a bus signals torture, not adventure, wait
till you can afford the limo. Resentment will cause your journey
to grind to a premature halt.
you reach your dream destination, you'll probably want to share
your story with others.
Hardships? Cost? Who can remember? Who cares?
bury the details in the fine print and future freedom-seekers
will skip to the happy ending, just like you did.
Cathy Goodwin, Ph.D.
Author, Career Consultant, Speaker
*Fast Track to Career Freedom*