Five Steps to Vocational Passion:
A Disciplined Plan for Major Mid-life Changes by Craig Nathanson
There's a famous song lyric that asks: "Is that all
there is?" Every seven seconds, an American turns 50 years old. So there's a
good chance that song is running through some of their heads.
The question captures the ennui that many people
feel in mid-life. They look up at the clock, see it ticking, and begin counting
in their heads all the mountains not climbed, the poems not written, and the
songs not sung.
It's time to stop asking the question idly. I'm
offering five initial steps that you can take to evaluate your situation and to
begin the transition away from a meaningless grind toward a new life that
provides you with energy and fulfillment.
Vocational passion is an alignment of your
abilities and interests in a role that gives you unlimited energy and happiness.
This is not an overnight process. But it's a process you can begin
today.
Step One: Evaluate
Lots of people settle for jobs that pay the bills
but leave them feeling empty. If you want to break out of this trap and find
another kind of life, you need to evaluate where you'd like to go.
Examine where your passions lie. On a scale of
1-10, where are you when it comes to vocational passion? A "1" is a living
drudgery where you force yourself to your desk every morning and dream about the
end of the day; a "10" is a perfect alignment between interests and livelihood.
Too many of us are closer to "1" than "10".
Anything lower than a "5" suggests your working life may be feeding your family,
but at the expense of starving your soul.
Step Two: Envision Your
Future
You may have seen the U.S. Navy ad that asks: "If
someone wrote a book about your life, would anyone want to read
it?"
Here's your chance to write that book – or at least
the outline. Sit down and write a short biography that describes who you are
five years from now. Describe exactly the life you wish to lead, doing work that
you love. You will know you're done with the exercise when your heart races with
excitement.
Then imagine and write down your vision of a
perfect vocational day. It's difficult to achieve something that you have not
clearly envisioned. Make sure your vision has clarity. Then document it and pull
it out regularly, to refresh your desire to achieve that vision.
Step Three: Tune Out Negative
Feedback
Understand this: The moment you announce plans to
make a radical change in your life, many people will find the move threatening
and they will not wish you well. They will try to talk you out of it and tell
you what a big mistake you're about to make.
Never let the naysayers dictate your life. People
who listen to negative voices end up with the status quo.
Step Four: Shore Up Your Support
Network
Anyone making a change needs supportive friends,
and lots of them.
I suggest a three-tiered model for analyzing your
personal support network. The three tiers will include people who are 1)
"interested" in your work; 2) "supporters" who are not only interested, but
offer creative ideas to move you forward; 3) "believers," which includes your
most active supporters.
Make your lists now. Examine whom you have in your
support network and rank them according to these tiers. Focus on networking with
your tier-one supporters, while trying to move those people in tiers two and
three up the ladder.
Step Five: Assess Your
Risk
When taking action to follow one's passion, people
trying to change their life fall into one of four categories. Each requires a
different strategy.
Category One: Plenty of money and plenty of time.
People in this category have a high tolerance for risk based on their relatively
young age and solid financial means.
Category Two: Plenty of money and little time.
Because of failing health and/or advancing age, those in category two have some
risk tolerance. But they probably lack a solid support network, since most
friends will advise against change because they are "too old" or "too sick."
Category Three: Little time and little money. I
define "little money" as having less than six months of cash flow in the bank.
Risk tolerance is low in this category, and supporters are probably hard to come
by. Most people are in this category.
Category Four: No money and no time. I define "no
money" as less then three months cash flow in the bank. Anyone is this position
will have a very low risk tolerance. They will find little support to help them
move toward doing what they love.
What to do?
Take the calculated risks now.
Make solid but flexible plans Get aligned around your abilities and interests Get more education if necessary Talk to people who do what you want to do! What's the worst that can
happen?
Remember this: You won't die or become homeless if
you pursue what you love. You may, however, find that your relationship to your
money will change. You'll respect money more, and you'll find that you can
manage on less of it.
Also understand that pursuing vocational passion
doesn't always mean making less money. But it does mean that money is not the
only consideration – or even the most important consideration – in choosing your
new vocational path.
If you don't act to pursue your vocational passion,
then every seven seconds someone else will come along and ask themselves: "Is
that all there is?" Many of them will answer, "No," and will do something about
it. You can be one of the doers.
Craig Nathanson, The Vocational Coach, is the
author of "P Is For Perfect: Your Perfect Vocational Day," by Book Coach Press.
He publishes the free monthly e-zine, "Vocational Passion in Mid-life." Craig
believes the world works a little better when we do the work we love. He helps
those in mid-life carry this out. Visit his online community at http://www.thevocationalcoach.com
where you can sign up for his next Tele-class coming up November
17.
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