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Career Freedom Coaching
"When you're feeling stuck and want to get free." |
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When you're feeling stuck and want to
get free: Every so often I get an email
like this: I send what I hope is a gracious response, offering a "get acquainted" call as a first step to some creative career coaching. Griselda never responds. Two months later, Griselda writes, "Cathy, I just ordered your book. As soon as I finish I will call. I saw a counselor who said I should move. I just can't make up my mind! " Amazingly, Griselda writes a third time: "I just spent two hundred dollars for an astrology consultation. I am still miserable. When I finish your book, I will call you." Have you ever watched a car,
stuck in snow, spin its wheels? 1. Quit thinking about the problem.
Go cold turkey for at least a month. Declare a moratorium on
buying self-help books, wondering if you need a coach, and baring
your soul. Sounds like breaking an addiction? Well, you can get addicted to being miserable. 2.Take it one day at a time. When you find yourself thinking about your dilemma, flip your mind to another topic, as if you turned off one light and turned on another. Focus on anything but your problem: your cat or dog, an escape novel, a movie, a garden -- the possibilities are endless. 3. Be aware that deep blocks and self-sabotage are the province of therapists. Forget about coaches, astrologers, online aptitude tests and even self-help books. Bite the bullet, find yourself a competent resource and stay with the process until you make changes. If Griselda asked, I'd tell her to get back in touch when she found herself using words like "move" and "action." I would ask her to complete a few of my forms and try some tentative actions before she reached for her credit card. Research shows that people
change when they get ready, sometimes because they've hit
bottom and sometimes because of a defining, crystallizing moment
of truth. When you are ready, you will know -- and others will know, because you look and speak differently. This time, if you decide to hire a coach, you'll complete the pre-call forms in half an hour and grab the first appointment available. And you'll be on your way to a new career and new life. Cathy Goodwin, Ph.D. |
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